Twenty years from now you
will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones
you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
— Mark Twain
I need to get something off my chest that I have been worrying about lately. Someone very close to me is going to be retiring very soon and it appears to me that he is extremely depressed about this situation. And NO, the person is not my husband...who has been retired for three years already!
One of the reasons I am so concerned is that this person is single. He has some outside interests, but as we all know a large part of our worklife is also the social aspect of it all. Due to my declining health, I was forced to stop working full time back in 1998. I didn't go through all of those regular "retirement" feelings as I was too sick to deal with them at the time. When I finally began to see the light at the end of the tunnel, there was probably a period of about a year where I kind of struggled to find out which direction I wanted to go in. Now, at the time, my husband was still working full time, so it was a bit different than both of us retiring at the same time.
Crafts were a large part of my day back then...and they still are, when I can find the time!! Now, I feel as if I'm always either cleaning or packing! All right, I admit, I have gotten rather used to my husband being home all the time and we can kind of take off and go whenever we want to...we really don't have any set schedule. But, it is amazing how BUSY we actually are!!
Back to my friend...that I am worried about. He has done some research and has joined a few leagues, but he's still worrying about the "unknown"...I think it is the fear of the unknown. I venture to say that I went through that to when you are used to getting up at 5 or 6am every day for your whole life and then all of a sudden...it doesn't really matter what time you get up...there is nobody waiting on you. It is a life changing moment. He doesn't seem to "get" the fact that he WILL be busy...he WILL find that his time is consumed with OTHER things. He actually thinks that he is going to be bored.
I'm trying to help him, I just don't know how. He does not live in this area, so I am limited in being able to offer much in the way of support. So far, I have told him the very first thing that he should do is rescue a DOG! He has always wanted one. He's not sure if he wants to jump into that in the beginning. I can understand that.
It sure would be great companionship for him though!!!
Got suggestions?? Send 'em my way...please! I need all the help I can get!!